An acceptance of a children’s exploration and self-pleasuring as a normative part of their development, and helping them to know what is socially acceptable, will help them to become sexually healthy adults.The other night my four year old daughter was in bed and she said to me “I’m touching my privates, feels great! I just said “cool”
My son was sitting on the toilet with a boner. He looked down and said “Whoah! What’s going on? I didn’t say anything specific he was tiny. I just said “yeah thats that happens sometimes”.
When children have special needs, teaching them about body privacy can be more difficult.
I discovered that my son who has autism, was randomly exposing himself when he first went to school, and also trying to touch his female teachers. We knew it was harder for him than for the other children to understand that this was not okay, or to control his impulses, but his behaviour was upsetting a lot of people. The principal suspended him and threatened to expel him if he didn’t stop. Fortunately we found a psychologist who managed to teach him about privacy and helped him to control his urges.
Parents and carers of children with special needs are particularly ill-advised to ignore signs of inappropriate or public sexual expression in their sons or daughters. Helping such children engaged appropriate sexual behaviour without making them feel ashamed requires exceptional finesse and most likely professional advice.
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