Peer pressure appears face strong factor motivating adolescents have sex. Although they tend to be influenced by what they think their friends are doing rather than what their friends are actually doing. For males having a girlfriend can provide status. Where the realities of having a relationship may be secondary. Teenage boys certainly when in the company of their peers- tend to approve of and admire sexual experience and priorities sexual conquests. 'Scoring' is just as important as scoring in sports and that can really add to the pressure of wanting to be perceived as a winner on both fronts.
I'm a big guy, my friends thought I was a hot sexy guy, but they didn't know I wasn't having sex.
I acted like a guy that shagged a lot of girls but I was having sex with my own hand.
For girls however it's a different story many people I spoke to said that girls tend to be called ‘sluts’ and ’skanks' by both boys and girls if they have sex with the boy while in a relationship.
I went to a small school the most popular girls were not sexual not good looking and nasty about girls who had boyfriends. They had some sort of social power and were considered ‘cool’ . None of them lost their virginity until after school but they were also the girls who got super-skanky after they left school they went absolutely wild at university.
No one is more carnal that a recent virgin John Steinbeck.
Each societal subset including different ethnic and religious communities has its own set of views about whether or not it's okay for a teenager to have sexual intercourse. Irrespective of the legal age of consequence. But one thing they will tend to have in common is a double standard moreover lax rules for boys than girls.
My husband and I are pretty liberal but we let definitely were challenged when that second child and first daughter became a teenager. We felt more protective towards her and we didn't want her to have the same level of freedom as he had. When she was invited to a sleep over it worried us far more than when he stayed at a friends house over night.
My brother who is younger than me was allowed to stay at friends house our parents hardly seemed to check up on him at all. By then I was 16 all hell would break loose if I went to the movies and wasn’t home by ten. Arranging a sleep over was way more trouble to them, then what it was worth. First there was a check up call to my friends parents, then the check up call when I was actually there, and finally an inquisition when I got home.
A pervasive, negative view of sex- with accompanying double standards- is often internalised by teen agers them selves.
As a teenager I remember we were having a sleepover at my best friend's house. She went to a brother Toms pocket and pulled out a condom! We knew he was seeing Martha Love! We were 15, and none of us had sex. We were totally disgusted we thought she was a “slut".
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