Household influences it's not just relationships with parents that impact on teenagers sexuality that other aspects of their home life that may play a role for example living with a single parent has been found to have an effect on sexual behaviour.
In particular for;s who’s mothers are dating might be more likely to have se and in general as I pointed out in early at chapters a mother's views of sexuality whether spoken or unspoken has a significant effect on their children.
My mom has never made any secret of the fact that she sees sex as a bit of a chore one of the sacrifices that you have to make if you are to be married I don't even know if she had an orgasm. She never talked about things like that we me. So looking back I guess it's no surprise that she tried to shut down any attempts I made to discuss it with her. Well maybe it's a generation no thing where and that she did say about sex was always passed on in a very cautionary manner. Continual references to ‘saving’ ones virginity and being aware.
One 's virginity being the last of the dangers not getting pregnant and just generally creating a picture of man as sexual predators. Who I only after one thing. Sex was something I saw as quiet scary as a teenager coming of age.
I was 15 I first had sex and I stayed in a relationship of sorts with that person for 2 years I'd say of sorts because he was frequently I'm faithful and traded me terribly, but I felt I because I lost my virginity to him therefore had an obligation to stay with him.
My mom had always impressed upon me how shameful of was to be considered a promiscuous woman. She had only ever had 3 sexual apartments in her life time and each time she had been in a long term relationship. I thought that was the sample I should follow, regardless how much suffering I went through.
When one 's children become adolescents it's a bit different to hide one 's sexuality.- Although its no bad thing for them to be aware that paradox sexual beings but at this age they know exactly what's going on!
Being in a nosey little shit, aged 13 or so, I was shocked and amused to discover a sexual object under my mom's bed. My my second step dad was into porn. I found a massive war chest ( literally- he was a vet) full of Mayfair, Playboy, etc under a 60 kilo dryer in the back shed. I developed strong arm and back muscles during their tumultuous one-year marriage. This was unfortunate (no real regrets) a formative part of my sexual consciousness and only adult male input to my sexual identity whatsoever.
I didn't think my mother was too happy it about sex having had 7 children they use to go up to bed on a sunday after dinner. My brothers and. I would be washing up the dishes my father would say ‘ re you coming up Violet?’ and she’d say ‘Oh all right then’ in a reluctant kind a way, We’d all look at each other.
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