What's that 'down there?'
Most children are really bugging little scientists engaged in a vital task to provide themselves with an informed sexual future.
I have sexual responses full almost as young as I can remember I said to my mother one night at bath time ' If I play with my willy it gets hard' I was not yet at school, so maybe three-and-a-half-four?
There was no specific stimulant I just noticed the physical reaction.
I called it my 'willy' and my sisters was her 'fanny'. I didn't think about them much except ththe hard feeling was sort of nice.
It is helpful for children to be taught the proper names for their genitals so they can feel more comfortable with buddies throughout their lives. I wish we could teach girls 'vulva', 'vagina', 'labia' and 'clitoris' (not pee-pee and so on!). If we found to do so we are missing the opportunity
to teach them important functions of different parts of their genitals, Or worse encouraging them to ignore them as 'unspeakable'. Children need to be told the basic functions of their genital parts - What does what. It's best to label 'vulva', 'vagina', 'labia' and 'clitoris' as individual parts of the genitals and to distinguish the uretha and anus as separate entities that are used respectively for urination and defecation. If we don't help differentiate between sex and elimination organs, they may grow up thinking that genitals are smelly and unclean which will affect their sexual issues later in life. Sometimes people teach young adult hood and beyond without ever learning important anatomical details.
When I was associate graduate professor in California as a 32 year old PhD student approached me off to my sexual anatomy class and said: 'It's a terrible thing to admit but until today I thought I peed through my vagina' She's not the only one.
When I was a young girl I picked up the term 'front botty' for my vulva. Front Botty? What did that suggest- that female sex organs were just front side version of the butt crack?
I called my genitals 'Bottom' in particular 'font bottom' or 'fanny'. Vagia was a dirty and embarrassing word.
Studies have shown that girls between one and four less likely to be given names for their genitals than boys are for their male genitals. Why? Is it because the vagina is considered more shameful, dirty or unspeakable than male genitalia?
I never seem to be told by my parents what to cal my vagina although my brother John was referred to as 'stroop' which is an old fashioned Scott's world for 'handle' or 'spout'. I got the impression from my parents pretty quickly that you didn't talk about things that went down below.
Parents label other parts of the body 'mouth' 'elbow' so why not "vagina'? If we don't mention children's genitals children learn the lesson that what's 'down there' is bad, dirty and not to be touched. When I am treating a person for a sexual disorder and she then use the words 'down there' instead of the correct names for their genitals it gives me a pretty good idea of the attitudes to sex and their genitals and that kind of environment in which they were raised. It can take a lot of work to help someone like this to become comfortable with their own body and sexuality.
Even though I love the feelings being given cunnilingus. I have to force myself to allow it to happen I first have to scrub down there until its it's clean, clean, clean. Then I just can't get over the idea it's the area that tastes bad and smells bad and i shouldn't expect a man to go down there. On the other hand I have no problem going down on him even if it's not that fresh.
Apparently women do have dirtier genitals than men anyone who's ever been to a supermarket knows that! I mean where are the penile freshness products, I'm kidding of course. The female sex organs should not be viewed as intrinsically unclean and there's no need for all those feminine hygiene products. Healthy vagina does not have an unpleasant odour.
I was grateful that my mother told me not to douche. She said my vagina was a self cleaning oven.
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