Many adults suffer form adult amnesia. They conveniently 'forget' what horny little beasts they were as children. I've already pointed out that child hood sexuality is an uncomfortable subject these days and many people do not want to believe that children are sexual beings... and, yet they are. We only have to think back to our childhood with an open mind to our own childhoods and our early eroticism, fantasies, explorations and those myserteous 'wet dreams' or secret orgasms.
I could have an orgasm really easily . For example, I could have one by leaning forward while holding a pencil on my lap strategically placed to connect with my clitoris. Of course, I used the eraser end. All I needed was a tiny bit of pressure. And I could orgasm by leaning against a desk if I was asked to stand up to read or answer questions. Or even just squeezing my legs together. I could have been have an orgasm infront of the nuns while they were talking to me. I think they caught on though, because after a while they wouldn't let us cross our legs.
Middle childhood is a time when profound and influential sexual learning is learned from parents, other adults, siblings and friends- and from society at large. These are not necessarily spoken messages. In fact some of the most powerful teachings are picked up by subtle inference. It can be extremely illuminating to delve into ones back ground and determine what sexual messages were received from our parents or carers- and how that might have influenced our adult sexuality. Girls in particular may receive sex is dangerous messages without balancing its fun and pleasurable ones that might eventually help them best to enjoy adult sexuality.
I never had any proper explanations about sex- there was nothing but what you picked up in the playground. Although once my mum gave me a 'chose your own ending book' designed to give girls insight into how men might prey on them and how sexual abuse can happen. I remember feeling really guilty because I would knowing use the foolish answer ('don't to tell anyone') because I wanted to see what would happen and kind of liked reading about it. I got a tingly feeling 'down there'. This made me feel awful, and i remember actually hating myself for it.
Children between the ages of six and 12 at re often even more curios about their bodies and sex than they were in fantasy. And they are now acquiring a vocabulary, to discuss sex comprehension skills to understand when adults discuss it, and computer skills to understand while adults discuss it, and computer skills so they can research it on the internet. Unfortunately parents `who do not help their children to negotiate their sexual journey and especially those who attitudes towards sex foster negative and punitive experiences- can gender profound disappointment in the child. This can colour- or even damage- their entire relationship.
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