Sexlife, in our sixties

What is sex like in our 60's? It's actually like it is at 30, you just get hurt when it goes wrong. 
Joan Rivers

In our culture there is the general notion that sex ends before old age. So our sixties and even earlier are considered to be a sexless time. There is absolutely no reason why this has to be true but, nonetheless many people believe it. Not only that but younger people are often highly judgemental about sexuality between older people and the latter are usually secretive about their continuing of erotic lives, for fear of shocking them.

Setting a good example for your children takes all the fun out of middle-age. William Feather

Adult children would seem to prefer that their parents play role models of 'Mum and Pop' and find themselves at bingo as opposed to ripping off each other's clothes friend evening of erotic fun. Whether younger people can accept it or not and how many prejudice there are about sexuality later in life, Sex is extremely important too many older adults. Having a happy and comfortable sex life at this age usually improves the overall quality of life, so it's worth trying to stay healthy enough to maintain it. Sexuality can actually improve as we age. Affection sensuality and even hot lusty eroticism are all possible and common in people of sixty and beyond. However we may have to do a little maintenance work. Some people accept the natural physiological changes that occur in our 60's but others are not so happy about them and worry they are doomed to a sexless old age.

Its been 20 years since I have sex. I got a pacemaker 3 years ago, when I was 64, for many years I felt esstranged from my husband and our relationship is become a marriage of convenience. But the thought of never having sex again my whole life makes me very sad.

Perhaps we buy into the idea that sex should and does end prior to middle age because of the lingering puritanical notion that sex is only for procreation, and once you become incapable of that you have to retire your pelvis.

I know my parents stopped having sex when they were in their mid 40's, and moved to separate bedrooms. I'm not sure why, they are both healthy and in good shape. When I reached the same age I had to fight the feeling that it was over for me, too. Fortunately my wife made it clear she was never going to give up, and now I now were in our 60s still getting fresh. 

Puritanism, the haunting fear, that someone, somewhere might be having a good time.
H.L. Mencken

Although some people try to be stoic, many are secretly terrified about their approaching old age. Fortunately some also obstinate:
 f*** aging gracefully, I'm going kicking and screaming.

But many men and women are still sexy and vital in the sixties and beyond and capable of a rich sex lives. They are often sexually confident and their experience counts for a lot, as they know their own bodies and they know how to give another person pleasure, and not afraid to try new things.

Dr Pamela Stephenson Connolly