The many people reaching 40 may herald the beginning sense mortality. Approaching mid-life is certainly sobering for many of us, even though we tend to fudge the exact age we think constitutes middle age. After all if we're going to live to 101 at 40 were no where near halfway. In earlier times turning 40 meant that women in particular where past it sexually speaking, but now we hear phrases like 60 years is the new 40. There are enough attractive 40 something female role models around to inspire women who are anxious about losing the ability to be considered sexually vibrant. At this point nevertheless many worry about it it's not our fault, it's not quite as easy to maintain health and fitness as it was earlier a decade ago. The relationship between our physical state and I'll sexual health is well established, some people begin to experience a poor quality of sex of course. Different people are at different stages of family and career. Some people have even chosen to leave childbearing to their late thirties or even beyond so they may just be beginning to deal with the sleepless nights and lack of time, inclination and privacy for sex that other people have experienced in the past. Some people in their forties may have kids who are slow in the nest and may feel free to become more sexually adventurous others may have become bored with a sexual Status Quo, some may be beginning to lose their confidence, notice signs of aging. In our society many people in their forties begin to sense a lack of interest from people they may have once had attracted to them, simply not looking at me the way they used to.
They still flirt with me and we have a great conversation the end of the evening, they say goodbye and disappear into the night with a 20 year old on their arm. Then I have to feel foolish for thinking they're interested in me and self-loathing sets in.
Dr Pamela Stephenson Connolly
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