People in their 40's who take care of their bodies, through a healthy diet and exercise and take steps to reduce their stress, will feel better about themselves. They will have a better body image until and feel more attractive ( if we feel more attractive, others tend to think we are too).I find that if I pay attention to the way I look maybe dress up, get my nails done put on some lacy underwear. I'm more open to responding to subtle advances by others. I really sleep with people who I've only just met. The point is, that I like to feel the options are there. The days the options are not there, I wear my reducing bra and old knickers.
Depression anxiety and sleep problems such as insomnia or sleep apnea can all affect sexual relationships. The arrival of such problems should be taken seriously, and treatment should be sought. Likewise having to face serious physical illness or disability can present serious challenges to the maintenance about sex lives.
One of the awful things about going through chemo is the constant thrush. It never seemed to go away. I suspect that's because my immune system was down, but the worst thing was feeling a burden to my husband and family. I somehow decided I wasn't good enough anything including sex. We had a couple of failed attempts at lovemaking. But eventually I got well enough to say take care of the family. It gave me my confidence, and my sex life returned.
Dr Pamela Stephenson Connolly
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