Sexlife, Is it taboo?

Highly uncomfortable, unexplainable sexual reactions that appear to violate strong societal taboos do occur from time to time. It's best simply to notice the feelings that they arouse in us, and then put them in perspective, in other words, Thats strange and uncomfortable, but Im not going to really act on that.

I did once get a very strong erection while trying to comfort my grown up sister, who was upset about something, and I once had an erotic dream about my brother. I found both totally unexplainable and neither occurred again.

I was standing beside my dad in church singing a hymn, I must have been around 19, and I suddenly had a really uncomfortable sexual feeling. I felt wet in my crotch and terribly guilty. I mean it was Gods House and this was my own father. The feeling did not last very long, and nothing like that ever happened to me again, but it was uncomfortable enough for me to remember over all the years since.

The enormous range of sexual patterns and behaviors that exists among mankind illustrates that there is rich normative variation and we should not be too quick to judge anyone. Certain sections of society have developed different sexual views and behaviours from others because the general rules are different. For example, sexual mores in some areas of the worlds rock n roll are probably shocking to many outsiders.

We'd come off stage and there'd be woman waiting for us in the green room. We didn't know who they were and we didn't care. Some guys would do it then and there, while others would fuck in the van. The women had favourites. Some groupies liked guitarists, some preferred singers. They chose you, not the other way round. The groupies were in charge, a lot of people don't understand that, they were always in control. A lot of it was about cock sucking. I thought there was not a lot in it for them, but apparently there was. And there would be a share system, if there were four guys and three groupies, the one who finished first would send her along to the fourth ones room like room service.

Dr Pamela Stephenson Connelly