Sexlife, Sexual preference

An important aspect becoming sexually mature is working out exactly what kind of sex we prefer. Discovering exactly what kinds of sexual behaviour is the most pleasurable and communicating that to a partner as well as being able to discuss, what one enjoys requires an advanced level of exploration. It's also a never ending process, as a sexual tastes change throughout the lifespan. Some people evolve at the tertiary education stage of sexual discovery with great openness and truly experimental sensibility. Some even seek new experiences with new partners,  just for enlightenment sake.

I suppose I was just lucky have quite a number of partners both Men and women most of them more experienced than me. They taught me different things. I just loved how sex made me feel before during and after. I was completely open to learning all kinds of naughtiness. When I think back to some of the things I tried ,doing it in a public library, doing it with 2 men at the same time, being a woman's sex slave, I it was wild and wonderful and I don't regret any of that for a second. 

I came out in my late teens. So I was already comfortable with who I was as a lesbian. In my mid twenties I was came to find out what turned me on, but I really wanted to learn how to simulate all my partners. It became clear that every woman is different, that's when I realized listening to her body was unique.

Well some are keen to seek new experiences deliberately, others prefer to let things develop more organically by allowing feelings for special individuals with who they fall in love with to lead to the giving and receiving pleasure that seems right at the time.

I never chase women like some of my friends did, they were into sport f***ing. But I never got the point of that. To me the greatest pleasure is to really get to know one woman, to saver every inch of her body and learn how to really excite her. That's what really turns me on making her scream with pleasure. 

Sexual style develops slowly and at some point it may have to be adapted to suit changing circumstances.

I had a serious car accident when I was 22. So now I have to make love in a different way. Since I could no longer feel anything below my hips. My partner and I began to experiment with up a body sensations. At this point sex is about having a close emotional connection with him. Giving him oral sex so he can come by kissing and stimulating my nipples. 

Dr Pamela Stephenson Connelly